Look at the situation objectively – how much effort does he put into keeping you happy?How much effort does he put into connecting with you, talking with you and being there for you?I’m not saying there’s Men and women are turned on by different things because of how we’re wired by nature. So when you say that you don’t understand why guys watch porn, well, that makes sense.Clearly men and women have different internal responses in the realm of sexuality.
I’d even go so far as to say you already know the answer in your heart, you just wanted help moving through your thoughts about the situation.
For example, the two of them went on a long bike trip together, and it took longer than this guy expected because my friend is not as in-shape and had to work harder to keep up, so the partner got upset that things were taking so long.
He is very socially awkward and will often blurt out hurtful and insulting things at social gatherings that are later explained away as “jokes.” He’s also extremely conservative and quotes Glenn Beck all the time, and his idea of how their marriage should work definitely casts himself as a traditional husband and my friend as a “wife” even though they are both men.
I’m not hear to moralize or lecture you – that’s not what I’m about.
I will say that the reason that you went through his private correspondence is because, in your gut, you don’t trust him.