Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?
Until the conversation happens, I would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up.
Moving Towards an Exclusive Relationship Assuming the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, I would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction.
Where does he see this relationship going, exactly?
Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.
It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.
I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.
I’ve had several readers write me they argued with the man they were dating to ask if I thought they had made the right choice.
You enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. However there is one problem: his dating profile is still active.
If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.
While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.