The more we understand that men are distinct, the easier it is to admire them. She also has workshops just for men, to help them better understand what makes women tick.
There are ways that men think, ways that they approach things that women often don't have. If you can't make it to a workshop site, Alison offers a CD set called In Sync with the Opposite Sex.
Actually, men's feelings are literally in a different place in their bodies. They actually pay more attention to women being happy than to themselves being happy!
Women feel happy right in the middle of their chest, like a vibration of happiness. If he has a moment of ecstasy and is really happy, it flows out through the chest and into his arms and hands, and that's where you get high-fives, or jumping up to hit a cross-beam. One major difference is that women base more decisions on love.
Alison Armstrong specializes in helping women understand how men think.
The workshops are filled with laughter and cries of recognition as men nod at her descriptions and women say, "So that's why they do that!
All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.
It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. Men want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want older men.
Since he doesn't expect her to give up her life to blend into his, this can be very important.
Men listen very carefully to women express themselves about what their dreams are and what they want, and they think, "Could I give that to her? " It's possible for men to want us to fulfill our dreams, but not want to be the person to be there when we do it. They commit themselves to that one result and they're entirely focused on it, and they get very frustrated when they don't have what they need to do it. There's a great example in the first half-hour of my In Sync CD. He's trying to accomplish getting them to the restaurant so they can have a nice dinner, and she thinks he's not talking to her because he doesn't like her. He's just trying to make sure she has a nice evening!