Of course, this happens to straight people too, but for couples who are reproductively incompatible, the questions often become even more invasive.We're talking about sensitive medical information here — if it's not offered, don't demand it. A lot of what we think of as wedding traditions are based on heteronormative gender roles that simply don't apply to most same-sex couples (or many straight couples, for that matter). Maybe no one will be "given away." Maybe there won't be a mother-son dance or a bouquet toss. If we skipped something, it's probably not because we forgot.It's nearing summer, and that means one thing: You need to go out and buy more refrigerator magnets because the ones you own are straining under the weight of all the invitations to the dozens of weddings you'll be attending in the upcoming three months. And this year, with more states than ever allowing same-sex marriage (Illinois will become the 17th at the beginning of June), you might very well have queer wedding bells in your future. Do not attend a wedding for which you did not receive a personal invitation, unless you are a firefighter and one or more wedding guests is on fire.Unfortunately, same-sex weddings are still rare enough that they can present unexpected stumbling blocks in propriety, leading to the occasional faux pas. Anecdotal evidence from a number of gay weddings, including mine, suggests that they are more than usually prone to being crashed — often by well-meaning friends of friends who have never seen a gay wedding and are curious. You go to a wedding because you care about the couple and want to support their love for one another, not because you think it will be a fun anecdote to one-up your BFF's trip to Costa Rica. Not every married person identifies with either side of the gender binary.
This shouldn’t need an explanation, but hell, somebody has to say it. If you love trans girls because you saw some wild shit in a “trannie porn” you loved, you’ve more than likely got the wrong girl. Treat us with the respect we deserve, and you will have yourself a wonderful person with an amazing story to share yourself with. Let the couple be the guides of the words you choose, and if you're not sure, just use their names. Thank goodness this did not happen to me, but I've heard some horror stories about homophobic relatives throwing a serious cloud over the festivities.If you don't want to attend, just check "regrets" and leave it at that; you don't need to explain why you won't be there.Others may have a very liberal background and be excited to share stories about her people with you. Why do you feel entitled to know my LAST last name? Many girls have big dreams and will stop at nothing to achieve them.It’s a touchy subject sometimes, but at least the topic is genuine, it has nothing to do with sex or gender. Some will go on from being registered nurses to medical doctors, others from sales associates to store managers at Gucci. That guy gets absolutely nowhere and ends up buying the bar to make it worth my while for tolerating his constant faux pas.