It is not wrong to go to another church, but we don’t want to presume that is the only thing you can really do after a breakup. Remember that regardless of how painful the breakup may be, God is using this difficult experience to sanctify you.
Paul says in Romans , “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Your breakup is included in this phrase “all things.” If you are a Christian, God is using this experience for your good.
If you don’t enjoy being with the other person, and look forward to being with them, it may be time to consider moving on.
Husbands and wives are called to love and respect each other (Ephesians -33), and we are told to enjoy life with the spouse God has given us (Ecclesiastes 9:9).
They can help us see things that we miss when we are blinded by emotions. Dating should not be used to fill our insecurities, meet our sexual needs, or be done casually.
If the community of believers in your life is raising questions and concerns about whether you should move forward with the person you are dating, you should listen to what they have to say. The (very recent) modern idea of dating for fun or sport is dangerous because your heart either will get damaged or become numb.
What would it mean to break up for the glory of God? How do you end the relationship in a way that honors God and the other person, especially since he or she is a brother or sister in Christ? ) and to speak only those words that build up and are fitting (Eph. This is a simple way to honor the other person and provide space for questions or discussion. The other person may have questions or things to discuss afterward. The worst thing you can do is throw stones and cast blame on the other person, not only causing sadness over the lost relationship but also provoking feelings of guilt, as if it is his/her fault. After all, he or she is a child of God, loved by God, so what gives you any right to treat him or her any differently than God does? Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Ps. Just as we find our identity in Christ in the dating relationship, so, too, this broken relationship does not define you.
But if you are in the wrong relationship, then it necessary, and should happen sooner rather than later.
One of the ways we flee this is by ending a relationship where we are being pressured into having sex. Despite what our culture suggests, moving in together physically before you have moved together emotionally and spiritually is something that almost never ends well. Sin includes actions done by us, to us, or in our presence that can leave us with scars that need to heal.
God’s grace is big; He loves you and wants you to wake up to a spouse who is committed to loving you forever, not to a boyfriend/roommate who can leave at any moment. There may be a time in a relationship where you discover you or the person you are dating needs time to heal.
As King Solomon said and Jesus later taught (Luke ) you live from your heart, so above everything else guard it (Proverbs ). When you are not on the same page about sexual purity. It is an amazing gift that God has given us, for a specific purpose: bonding.
It is meant to unite a man and a woman in a way that is well beyond the scope of this post to describe. My wife is a counselor, and every time someone comes to her and wants to share something they have carried with them in secret for years, she always knows what it will be about: sex.