Circular dating is about Free Therapy and practicing Rori Raye Tools. Be proactive, date lots of people, have fun, don’t get too excited about a promising prospect – we’re all on the same page so far.Where this concept of Circular Dating breaks down for me, however – the reason I wanted to guest blog on her website – is this idea: The concept of circular dating (CDing) is ostensibly supposed to last . Yes, there’s something highly discordant about this principle, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head for nearly a week.Just dump him and find the man who treats you well and ultimately wants a commitment. The friction here comes from women who want to KNOW that their investment in a man is going to lead to marriage. All you can know is whether he’s a man of high character, a man who has spoken of a future, a man whose heart is in the right place. But just because a man isn’t positive he wants to marry you doesn’t mean you break the bonds of exclusivity. She can certainly dump him (which is a good strategy when you’re getting past three years of dating.) But seeing other guys while you’re boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t sit well with me. I don’t stand to gain anything from “being right” in this situation. But since I still believe my take on the male mindset is equally valuable as any woman’s take on it, I wanted to respond to the main areas in which Rori’s readers falsely dissected and misinterpreted my argument: He should know if he wants to marry me. Nobody told you to invest three years of your life in a man who has stated that he never wants to get married. But if you have a boyfriend who wants to get married one day, but he’s not sure if it’s to you, your best bet is to give him lots of time to figure it out before proposing. Pat Allen said: “If you tell a man what to do and he listens, he isn’t a man.” I’m not stating whether this is fair or not; I’m merely stating that it’s Some men just know after 3 months, therefore all men should know that fast. Lots of marriages began with the man knowing right away.If I’m your boyfriend and you start seeing other men, you are essentially cheating on me, and it doesn’t make me feel better about you, our relationship, or our future together. I speak for most men and remain firm in this sentiment. But if you start to “circular date” when you have a man who is on the precipice of wanting to spend the rest of his life with you, you might actually be driving him away. It’s advice that may make women feel better, but doesn’t do what it’s designed to do. If you’re under 40, we’re talking at least two years. But trying to make him figure out the answer to something that he couldn’t possibly know is a recipe for a breakup. Actually, anyone who claims to “just know” that it’s “right” after one week, one month, or three months has a very selective memory. And a majority of those marriages ended in divorce.
This is what it felt like to be featured on my friend Rori Raye’s blog last week, in a post entitled “The Circular Dating Argument”.All I’m saying is that if you’re with a man who believes in marriage, you have to allow him to come to his own conclusions over time.And if you think you’re restricting your options by being faithful, then, by all means, circular date.If you saw a woman who was about to drive off a cliff, would you tell her? She’s plowing over orange cones and through the yellow police tape towards a towering precipice. And the faster she accelerates, the more frantic you get, watching her willingly (and confusingly) speed towards the chasm.I’m even gonna bet that if you were witnessing something so damaging, you might even put yourself in harm’s way to protect the innocent drivers.