Should it upset or worry me that she is clearly using it on her own time? We are always together—it’s not as if I’m away on trips and she is lonely—so why wouldn’t she just initiate sex with me rather than using the vibrator?
It makes me feel scared and offended—is she not satisfied by me? I know how ridiculous that may sound, but it’s just a fear and I don’t know how to handle this. You don’t have to open with “we haven’t used this vibrator together and now I’m anxious about whether you want to have sex with me or might cheat,” but she may very well have no idea that this has brought up so many feelings of insecurity and anxiety for you.
My boss posted on our Facebook page about how “proud” he was of all the women who’ve been sharing their stories and I almost lost it.
I haven’t talked to many people about what happened to me, including several members of my family, and I don’t want to “come out” as a survivor through a hashtag. I want to tell people that survivors don’t owe them their stories.
I just want to tell people to get over themselves and be happy and grateful that the only problems they are facing are those.
I keep finding myself going to the bathroom and sobbing.A: You can kneel in front of a casket and briefly acknowledge the sadness of someone’s death or think about your grieving friend’s needs—you are not “fake praying,” you are having a genuine moment of reflection.I don’t think you’re doing anything you need to change. : My girlfriend recently bought a vibrator for us to use together (we’re both women).(For what it’s worth, masturbation and sex are not the same thing; the fact that your girlfriend sometimes masturbates with a vibrator is not necessarily a referendum on how she feels about having sex with you.If your sex life is otherwise satisfying, then I think this is a fear you can let go of.) Whatever the outcome, you have to share what you’re thinking, what you’re afraid of, and what you want with Q.