While some people clearly feel proud to have a hottie on their arm, others are more comfortable having the upper hand in the beauty department.
If you’ve ever had someone look at you during sex with this completely euphoric expression, like, “I ,” you understand that “dating down” in terms of attractiveness can be a confidence boost in its own right.
The other day, at a Fashion Week party, my friend Alan and I stood against a wall, scanning the room for hot people, as you do.
“It’s weird,” he said contemplatively, staring into a sea of models.
“It wasn’t that I was specifically attracted to ,” Millie clarified recently.
“It just so happened that, about five or six years ago, what was fashionable in terms of male models were thin, tattooed punk boys who looked like they’d just been plucked from a skate park, and It’s true: It’s human nature to want to kiss and touch and penetrate beautiful people.
But, as un-shallow as I have congratulated myself for being on many occasions, I will admit that there have been times when someone’s looks overwhelmed any need for a deeper compatibility.
“At one point I felt like I was dating a teenage girl,” she said.
The attraction felt almost indefinable, relying on everything from their looks and style to their mind and profession, to the smell of their skin and the sound of their voice.
Deep attraction is, of course, a multisensory experience.
Not to mention that people get away with so much more when they’re attractive.”And that’s not just true of relationships; it's true of life in general.
It’s a widely documented psychological phenomenon that good-looking people are perceived by others as being better people overall—as being nicer, more intelligent, better at their jobs, and yes, better to date. Hamermesh, author of , there are also many economic benefits to looking good, from higher wages at work to getting better deals on loans.