When the abuser wants to know where you are every minute of the day and requires frequent check-ins, it is because they believe their control over you may be threatened.Cutting you off from your friends and family is the abuser's way of cutting you off from your support system.Taking your paycheck and not allowing money for necessities is a common way of keeping the victim close to the abuser.If you do not have enough money for food and clothing, you will not have enough money to leave.Possessive partners may also disrespect your career or academic choices. He might become angry or upset when you socialize with friends, family or co-workers.Along with this, he may accuse you of cheating or be suspicious of innocent behaviors such as sending an email or a text message.Anna Green has been published in the "Journal of Counselor Education and Supervision" and has been featured regularly in "Counseling News and Notes," Keys Weekly newspapers, "Travel Host Magazine" and "Travel South." After earning degrees in political science and English, she attended law school, then earned her master's of science in mental health counseling.
Forcing someone to have sex when they do not want it, even if it's your spouse, is rape. Forced sex is not love and can leave deep emotional scars in addition to physical harm.
Tearing someone away from support weakens a person.
This behavior is abusive because it makes the abuser the only source of social support, leaving less room for the victim to seek help.
In extreme cases, your possessive partner may try to cut off your contact with friends and family because he is jealous of the time you spend with them. For example, your partner might threaten to leave you if you do not do exactly what he wants.
In some cases, possessive people might also self-injure, threaten suicide or engage in other self-destructive behaviors if you show interest in friends, family, hobbies, work or school.