Mirroring a man’s efforts isn’t nearly as scientific as dieting, but I think it’s pretty hard to contradict this principle: Men do what they want to do. If he doesn't make an effort, that just means he's not very motivated to be your partner. Frankly, I find mirroring to be close to foolproof. It's entirely possible that you can "do nothing" (as I advocate), and the man pulls away, saying, "You don't make enough of an effort for me". Does this mean that you shouldn't eat smaller, healthier portions and hit the treadmill regularly? It might mean that there’s something else you can tweak, but the basic principles of dieting remain true, regardless of their results. He’ll find a woman that’s more man than he is, and you’ll be free to find a man who actually knows that it’s his role to pursue you.When a man behaves as you expect a man should, give him a little praise.Even if you would never accept anything less men feel good when a woman notices the value of their consideration. In my opinion there is only one-way of dealing with poor behavior: don’t.
Sure, playing hard to get might eliminate any toxic bros from the equation very early on, but it could also totally give a nice guy the wrong impression. The majority of the time, if a guy thinks you’re playing games or gets the sense that you’re a handful to deal with, then there’s a good chance that he’s going to try and GTFO.
We’re used to having to wait for the dudes to ask us out, wait for them to initiate a texting session, and wait for them to tell us Playing hard to get stems from uneven power dynamics.
In the past, playing hard to get has been used as a way of showing a guy that we’re not “too easy” in case it put him off.
They set their boundaries too late in the relationship allowing the other person to dominate them.
Dating is a lot like driving; there can only be one driver.