Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there. As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here.As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading.” “If we have children, will it be important to him that they are raised by godly principles and involved in church?” It turns out we were not in sync on these issues, and I decided to end the relationship. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me.
“No, this is not the one for you.” After that I made the difficult decision to break up with the guy. But I’m convinced it is much less hurtful than spending your life being miserable in a marriage.
In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.
In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.
But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list.
I had to ask myself, “Is he really on the same page as me when it comes to my Christian faith?