However, at 34 years old, she thought it necessary to open up, for the first time, about a relationship that almost killed her.
As a staunch advocate against domestic violence, a survivor of domestic violence, a lecturer on the topic, and a journalist, Christina wanted to exclusively share her story with me because she knew that I would have great empathy for her harrowing experiences. It victimizes every demographic - even smart, pretty young ladies like Rihanna, Sarah Hyland and Christina Milian. You're an adult." He was getting in my head - brainwashing me.
And by “regular,” we have a feeling they just mean “of a darker complexion” (especially since she’s afro-Panamanian).
Cole was quick to make it clear that she’s anything but regular: But such sideways comments might be because Cannon has dated all kinds of women in the past from a wide variety of backgrounds.
Christina landed a job as a "Disney kid" but securing a record deal was her ultimate goal. At 18, I finally came into a relationship with a record label. I'm on the phone and can't do anything, so I called the police. I was brainwashed that I couldn't do anything without him. He had me believe that everyone else was the enemy. In fact, I stopped talking to my family to be with him. When you have a gun in your face, all you can think about is your family and people who love you. I can't live without him but I can't live with him." I was so torn. I was watching an episode on Oprah about domestic violence. It was a girl telling a story of abuse of how she got out of it. My family continued to love and support me despite my fighting with them. I knew that if I spoke to him I would have changed my mind. What would you advise others experiencing domestic violence? Although each victim of domestic violence may have circumstances that make her experience unique, there is always a thread of commonality that unites all. The abuser wants to wield his or her control over the victim (Note: I do not use the term "victim" as a synonym for "weak". Christina knew from the age of four that she wanted to be an entertainer. The relationship changed from him being a funny and sarcastic guy to being an asshole, in a joking style. He started talking down about my friends so bit by bit, I was getting rid of my friends. When I finally released it and I heard myself talk about it with family and friends it became therapy. After her parents divorced when she was a teen - an experience that emotionally devastated her - she, her mother and sister moved to Hollywood to pursue her dreams. He would speak down to me by saying how great other women were. When I look at it now, I was very naive and innocent at 18 years old. He'd say, "if you leave me, I'll bomb your mom's house." He always made references to his gang relationships. When we had arguments he would choke me and kick me. Upon moving to California, Christina experienced extreme poverty but the family "worked their butts off" and stayed focused. He was great at making me feel bad about anything positive I had ever done. I was really goofy, fun and bubbly - but I was becoming dark. I felt that I couldn't do anything without him and he started to instill fear in me. What prompted the first episode of physical violence? I stayed with him in a house in Laurel Canyon hills, with no one around, and there were times when I ran half naked, with no phone, out of the house after him beating me up. Then, I would see his car lights coming at me, to run me over. That's also why I became involved with the "Stop Attack" app. Christina worked many jobs from babysitting, hosting at restaurants and even cleaning houses with her mother. And despite my dad warning that "Young boy's love is not real. I'm thinking this happiness is part of the package. He didn't say it but his actions were like; "I'm going to break you down and you will have nobody to trust but me." Emotional and psychological abuses are just as harmful and debilitating as physical abuse. I found myself talking like him - cursing all the time. I stopped going to the studio and turning down opportunities because I didn't want to get into an argument. I remember waking one morning and he was kicking me and stomping on me. The days when I would gain strength to leave him, he would call me and say he was going to kill himself - literally! My mom got me a ticket with the help of the record label to go to New York and spend time with family and get back to work. The next morning, I took the first flight to New York and asked my mom to have all my numbers and information changed before I landed.