Although this isn’t actually being too available, you are pretending to be—which is just as bad.[Read: The Love Panky dating girl code all girls need to know] #10 Your friends tell you that you’re too available. Because they’re probably the friends you keep ditching to go hang out with your new special someone.Take it from me: read these signs and change them ASAP—if you want to make something work. If you’re constantly saying yes to everything your new squeeze asks or wants to do, then you’re too available. Don’t you just want to curl up on the couch and watch a movie, instead of going to some lame car show? Honestly, this sounds more desperate than you being nice.Instead, say a quick, “Oh sorry, what did you need? The pitfalls of availability If you are too available, you may seem needy, like you don’t have a life of your own—which may put you at risk for being taken for granted. No matter how much you want to spend time with your partner, being too available can have its downfalls.Texting him multiple times a day and chatting about his day seems not only too available, but slightly desperate as well.
[Read: 20 signs you’re a people pleaser and just don’t know it] #4 You initiate most of the conversations.When you cancel plans you’ve made with your friends just because your partner wants to do lunch, it’s a sure sign you’re too available. #9 Whenever he asks, you tell him you’re not busy—even though you are swamped with work and a new hobby.Or maybe you always tell him you’re not busy so he’ll ask to do something.“The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness.Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” – Psychology Today So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.