As luck would have it, your roommate offers cheap tickets to a local show he can’t attend.You obviously jump at the opportunity with one person in mind: her. But to your dismay, you get a response that poses a problem for many singles: the dreaded “maybe.” For those of you who are not familiar with the dreaded “maybe,” it translates into two things in the online dating world: 1.) I’m really not that interested right now, but if there is nothing else to do this weekend…If you chose Woman A, then kudos to your dating intuition!Woman B leaves you in what I like to call “dating purgatory.” In other words, you don’t know whether to bank on her at the risk getting ditched. But what if I told you that this can be completely avoided?And you don’t know whether to ask another girl at the risk of losing her approval. Next time she presents you with a dreaded “maybe,” do the following in order: 1.) Tell her that you look forward to the date, but will settle for asking someone else if she cannot attend.Showing that you have other options (competition) will increase the value and desire of this opportunity. Obviously, don’t use the word “deadline” (you’re dating, not writing a newspaper). If god forbid I’m still writing this blog at 40 that will clearly change, but for now, it’s fine. Have a good week.”) Called me Wednesday (I didn’t respond), texted me inviting me to a movie on Thursday (I didn’t respond), and called me twice Friday DURING THE DAY. Well, that isn’t entirely true—I think it happened once in 6th grade. Anyway, Jdate guy sent me a message and we emailed and bbmed for a few days and then he asked me out. To dinner/drinks last night and I was so surprised at how much fun I had. It would have been sooner, but I actually was worried that I was dying.
While some may disagree with this notion, citing previous dates where maybes turned into “yes,” let me ask you this one question: What have you encountered more with a “maybe”? Ask any woman— if they really want to date you, then they will the find time.At the very least, they will offer up an alternative solution.This in itself separates those who are genuinely interested (daters), from those who aren’t (users). I had already made plans with friends.” Which woman truly has your best interest in mind?So the fact that he provided me coffee on a daily basis just made it impossible for me not to have a crush on him.We finally started hanging out at the very end of the year and when he surprised me with a free coffee travel mug, it was better than any piece of jewelry a guy could buy for me.