From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.Self-esteem isn’t an essential need like food or water, but it’s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled.The study can’t determine whether Tinder people felt worse about their bodies, whether people with low self-esteem just tend to use it more, or some other reason.“But in general, we can say that when you use any of these current social media platforms, you’re putting yourself out there for potential evaluation,” Petrie says.In the study, researchers asked a group of 1,300 mostly college kids to rate how they generally felt about themselves through questionnaires and self-reports.Questions like Compared to people who weren’t on the dating app, Tinder users had lower levels of self-worth, reported being less satisfied with their faces and looks and were more ashamed of their bodies.I read your book: “Why You’re Still Single” (among many, many other single self-help books,) and I’m here because I trust your opinion. Hauck believes that seeking higher self esteem is a bad idea. You may decide you are a good person because you are good looking, a hard worker or do well at your job. As I see it, you’re in the middle of a vicious cycle. The more confident you get at it, the more success you’ll have at it. Start there, watch your confidence grow, and please come back to let me know how it’s going. Much love, Evan Heather; “Overcoming The Rating Game” by Paul Hauck might be useful book for you ( ). Self Esteem is based on qualities that can change….meaning your self esteem can come right back down again.
“These platforms may not be the best place to get validation that you’re an ok person or you’re attractive,” he says.
They know that they are good, competent, and lovable and trust that the right person for them will see this.
They don’t attach their worth to what a guy thinks and, as a result, don’t feel stressed and anxious when a guy’s feelings are unclear.
But the most fascinating result of all was that men—not women—who used Tinder had the lowest levels of self-esteem.
That may simply be because so many more men than women use Tinder, the researchers speculate.