As women, are we always to lean back and just accept whatever he does, even if it doesn’t work for us? And yes, still dating other guys, but no one has compared.
What you have to do is to manage your investment and attraction. Use your single card, that is what rotation is for.You telling him what you think he should do or what you want isn’t going to make him grow more liking toward you or want to come closer to you. If the thousands of women who find me thanks to this junk advice of bringing up the talk are of any indication, it’s really a waste of time and energy to even contemplate doing this. You getting all huffed and puffed because he’s not where you are at the moment even makes you less appealing to him. He likes you, he enjoys your company but he feels like you’re making him an asshole for not wanting what you want exactly when you want it.That is pretty bossy and pushy, isn’t it, now that someone puts it that way? He’s having his boundaries and I’m stepping all over them because I feel justified to feel how I feel for whatever reason I hold in my head. “Everything on his terms” is following and trusting his leadership in my book.I know I wasn’t when I first met my ex, having just been out of a 9-year relationship but I thought I wanted a relationship. Ruby, having just broken up from her boyfriend only a less than a year ago, is exactly in that stage. Bringing the talk only makes you appear presumptuous,dramatic and pushy.So I was gravitated to him because he was safe and distant because I needed the distance myself to sort my head out and regain and enjoy my independence. He speaks to you clearly of his “intentions” (and all those things you require from a man) with his actions. It’s because he doesn’t want to or he’s not ready for that.