The good news: Dating while sober can be just as good, something I found out firsthand when I gave up drinking and continued going out.
Read on for my takeaways and lessons that anyone—even those looking to take a break from drinking—can learn from.1.
Yeah, there’s the coffeehouse date, a sober standby, but Lara Frazier, 33, of Dallas, who's been sober for three years, says it’s possible to get more creative.
“I think it’s fun to grab coffee, but also to go on a hike or meet at a walking trail. Go people-watch at a public area and just get to know each other,” she says.
” text, you can simply say, "There's this amazing organic juice bar on 56th. ’ which can be perceived as, ‘I'm not that interested in you.’”If you feel comfortable being around other people drinking, you don’t have to avoid typical bars like the plague, says Dr.
Patricia O’Gorman, a psychologist practicing in Saranac Lake, New York.
“My favorite thing about dates isn’t necessarily what I’m doing, but the chance to communicate and get to know someone.”A good tip: Try to get to know some date-friendly coffee shops, juice bars, or cafes with evening hours.
That way, when you suggest coffee after getting that “Drinks tomorrow? Mike Dow, “This reply is better than ‘How about coffee?
When I first got sober, I felt like everything revolved around drinks—after work, on the weekends, and especially during dates.While some are in recovery, an increasing number of women are going sober as a wellness and lifestyle choice.Still, there's something daunting about the idea of dating without cocktails—for better or worse, booze be an ally when it comes to awkward moments.Either way, you’re bound to be more in tune with the messages your body is sending now that your mind is clear.6.You’ll know whether you're actually ready to sleep with someone. It’s just you and your body and another person and their body. Instead of toppling into bed and hastily tearing off condom wrappers, you’re wide awake, every sense absorbing what’s happening inside of you and around you. Potter points out, in sobriety, the act of sex itself might be approached in a different way.