How can an extrovert deal with introverts

Especially in relationships where one part has more extroverted personality traits and the other part is more introverted, misunderstandings often arise. Why? Because both personality types display fundamentally different behaviors:

While introverted people are often thoughtful and look "inward", their extroverted partners act in exactly the opposite way and prefer to move around as many people as possible - actually known, but there is often the risk that the extroverted partner, for example, will "go into himself" misinterpreted by the introvert.

Why? Because they usually take their own behavior as a yardstick! While silence rarely occurs in extroverts and is mostly used by them as a kind of punishment towards others, they think that the thoughtfulness of their introverted partner should also be a kind of punishment.

They then believe that their introverted partner may be offended or in a bad mood - and he's just being thoughtful. If your partner also has introverted personality traits, you may want to read the following 10 lessons to help you understand him / her better in the future:


1.) Introverts like phases of being alone - but not permanently!
Introverts like to withdraw from the stressful everyday life and need time to think. So you can sort your thoughts and charge your battery at the same time. If you don't use that time to think, read or write. In contrast, extroverts use these quiet phases only to bridge the gap - they watch TV, surf the Internet or write text messages on their cell phones.

Extroverts are reluctant to be alone and often interpret these phases in the introverted partner as saying that their partner might get along better as a single - which is completely wrong! Phases of being alone are good and vitalizing for the introvert, while being alone for a long time is just as boring for him as it is for the extrovert.


2.) Introverts need time to "warm up" with new acquaintances!
Introverts tend to be reluctant! They are more tolerant and open-minded than other people, but it takes time for them to "warm up" to new people. Hence, you should be patient with them.

“Why are you always so calm?” Is a question that you often hear from your extrovert partners, as they often cannot understand it. Once the spell is broken, you can build up a good relationship with new acquaintances - it just takes time!


3.) Introverts often think.
Introverts are more likely to be looking for meaning in life. They look for patterns and analyze every day-to-day situation. If it takes longer for them to understand the context, it is often because they are looking for a deeper meaning.


4.) Introverts have fewer friends, but all the closer
While extroverts have many friends, some of whom are only superficial acquaintances, introverts tend to have fewer friends - but almost exclusively friends with whom you can go through thick and thin!

Extroverts get significantly more "likes" on Facebook posts, for example, since introverts prefer a small group of friends! They can go out of their way just like extroverts - they just care about society.

In their closest circle of friends they are always up for fun, in the extended circle of friends they tend not, because there they first have to build the trust they need.


5.) Introverts are good listeners
Introverts are often humble and humble. They don't like to talk about themselves and prefer to let others do the talking - but are all the better listeners for that! This modesty does not go down well with the extroverted partner, as he interprets it with a lack of pride in his person.

As a listener, you pay full attention to your counterpart, but do not like it at all if your counterpart is frequently interrupted or does not get to the point.


6.) Introverts sometimes wish they were extroverts
You sometimes wonder how easy some things would be if, like an extrovert, you could walk into any crowd and tell them about the horse.


7.) Introverts want to get to know new people
Introverts are not interested in superficial acquaintances. When you meet someone new, they also want to scratch below the surface. However, it takes time for them to build up enough trust with new acquaintances to open up to them.


8.) Introverts are great watchers
Introverts are great watchers! Because they tend to communicate less, their senses are more occupied with seeing and hearing. With that power of observation you can put yourself in the shoes of others and above all read other people's body language well! Studies show that this gift alone makes introverted people good leaders.


9.) Introverts are good at empathizing with others
With your good powers of observation you can put yourself in other people's shoes. They have a high level of emotional intelligence, but are usually head people! This means that they are in control of their emotions almost at all times and usually react objectively and rarely euphorically - they are far too modest and humble for that!


10.) Introverts like to take things slowly
Introverts already naturally have a high level of mindfulness. What you do gets your full attention! If you identify with tasks, invest your full energy in accomplishing them. You not only do this, but work it out with great attention to detail. Accordingly, they are not the fastest but the most conscientious!

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